Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological readiness for sex, anticipation of pleasure, and the body's immediate physiological reaction. How this process happens in boys and how to speed up arousal is useful for every woman to know.
Where does it all begin?
Arousal is triggered by various sensory stimuli. The girl's smell, her kiss and touch, her appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate the centers in the brain, which transmit a signal to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and the 4th director of the Kinsey Sex Research Institute, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of arousal of men. This conclusion was made as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of Sexual Arousal".
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent the venous flow, due to which the penis becomes dense, grows (on average 3-4 times) and feels pulsating. Often such a reaction occurs within a few seconds after sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, the erection may weaken and strengthen again - this is absolutely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20, 000 men. The dimensions of their genitals were measured. Men from all over the world took part in it. As a result, it was found that the average size of the penis at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them - nocturnal (spontaneous) - happens without sexual influence. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of excitation of brain centers. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex - occurs as a result of touching the penis. Since this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even a light touch can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's pulse quickens, his breathing becomes more frequent, and his blood pressure rises (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and can become denser, and the testicles are higher. The upper part of the body is slightly reddened. Lubricating fluid is released, which helps the sperm to pass through the canal.
What motivates men?
In addition to a beautiful image (naked woman, or dressed in lace lingerie, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it, so that the arousal is as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to make a guy run away is to stimulate his sensitive areas. They include:
- head, neck and chest;
- abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay usually starts with a kiss. A girl's passionate kiss can already cause an erection and put a guy in a good mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips, in addition, he feels the sexuality of his partner and anticipates future sex. At this time, it is possible to caress the nape of the neck with your hands, this area is also very sensitive. Many men like it when their earlobes are kissed and bitten, but you have to be careful because there are some who strongly dislike this process.
The lower abdomen is a great place to caress before oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, it can be done not only with hands, but also with lips, hair and bare chest.
Everything is clear with the genitals - any movement in this area is welcome and causes sexual arousal in men. Be careful of sudden movements, boys may fear for the safety of their dignity. Minette, manual techniques - all this maximizes the desire of the partner. Surrounding areas include the inner thigh, which can be stroked with the hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, because the process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not happen quickly for all men, and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you are aroused first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a question little known to most people. What does science say? He considers arousal to be a physiological sexual reaction.
Or rather, its first stage. That is, a whole series of processes. They do not have gender differences: increased breathing and heart rate, muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, appearance of redness and goose bumps, as well as nipple erection.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, look and voice change. This is due to the release of hormones in the blood, which act as medicine on the body. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, a rise of the scrotum towards the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, there is additional lubrication, thinning or, on the contrary, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth), erection of the clitoris, lifting and enlargement of the uterus, tension and increase in the pubosacral muscles. Vaginal length.
By the way, if the redness of the skin is observed in men in rare cases, then in women there is an increase in blood flow not only to the clitoris and labia, but also to the chest and back. In some women, this redness is so noticeable that the area from the chest to the shoulders and neck may even turn scarlet during and after orgasm.
Why is there so much reaction? They are related to the flow of blood that the body carries out to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals and readiness for the second stage of the cycle of sexual reactions - intercourse. After the arousal phase there are: the plateau phase (sexual act), the orgasm phase and the phase of ending sexual reactions.
The arousal phase may not occur. This is often a physical rather than a psychological problem. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of the erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is associated with an organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes of this are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to the organs and the hormonal level are disturbed.
With some diseases, bad habits, taking certain drugs, especially those that affect the central nervous system and a sedentary lifestyle, the blood flow to the pelvic organs is weakened, which is why the main reaction of sexual arousal in men does not occur - the filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical but also the psychological state, which is why impotence goes from an organic form to a mixed one. This situation cannot be postponed, it can be easily corrected. You should consult a urologist or a sex therapist.
Men are sexually aroused much more often than they reach orgasm. Long-term abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. Women's favorite motto "I will encourage you and not let you down" is good in moderation - you should not overuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical, but also mental health. Men become nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And practically noThere is a difference in how it is taken - during sex or during masturbation.